I'm Introvert: June 2020

Kya Introverts brain slow respond karata hain?

Hey introverts, kya kabhi aapke saath aisa hua hain, ki aap apana koi kaam kar rahe ho ya fir aise he baith kar kuch soch rahe ho aur achanak se koi aapke paas aata hain aur aapse kuch puchata hain aur vo vyakti aapke javaab ka intajaar kar raha hain lekin aap apane kaam me ya soch me itana doobe huye the ki pahale to kuch seconds ke liye aap ko samaz he nahi aata ki aapse usane kya pucha, fir jab aap ko samaz aa jata hai to aap ye sochate ho ki ab aapko kya bolana hain lekin jab aap ye sab soch rahe hain uss vakt vo vyakti jisane aapse kuch pucha hain, aap ki taraf besabari dekh raha hain lekin aap abhi tak javaab ke bare me soch rahe ho aur kuch seconds baad aap javaab soch lete ho use batate ho. Fir vo aadami aap par hasata hain aur ye kah kar chala jaata hain ki app bohot slow ho.

Aur agar aisa aap ke saath nahi hua to aapne apane kisi introvert friend ke saath aisa hote huye to jarur dekha hoga. Lekin kya aapne kabhi socha hain ki aisa aakhir hota kyu hai? Aakhir kyu kuch introverts kisi baat ka javaab dene me der laga dete hain? Ya kyu vo kuch kaam bohot dhire karate hain?

Aisa hone ke piche ke do mukhya kaaran jaanane ke liye, padhate rahiye.

Reasons Why some introverts are Slow

Introverts ka brain unake thaughts me busy rahata hain

Jaisa ki maine pahale bhi kaha hain, introverts hamesha kuch na kuch sochte rahate hain aur introverts sirf sochate nahi hain balki uss soch me poori tarah se doob jaate hain. Main bhi ek introverts hu aur jab main kuch soch raha hota hu aur to main usame itana kho jata hu ki muze mere aas paas kya chal raha hain usaka pata he nahi rahata aur aise me muze achanak se koi kuch pooche ya kuch kahe to muze apani gahari soch se bahar nikal kar uss vyakti ki baat ka javab dene me samay lagata hain kyu ki us vakt main apani soch me bohot jada concentrated hota hu aur yahi jadatar introverts ke saath bhi hota hain.

Ye to ho gai bolane ke liye der karane ki baat ab baat karate hain koi bhi sadharan kaam bohot dhire karane ke bare me, jaise ki khana khana, udaharan ke liye maan lijiye ki koi introvert vyakti khana kha raha ho aur usake dimag me koi vichar aa ajaye aur vo usake bare me utane he concentration ke saath sochane lage to usaka apane khane par dhyan kaise rahega, aise me usake khana khane ki gati kam hona to svabhavik hain. Yahi baat aise sabhi kaamo par bhi laagu hoti hain jisame jada concentration ki jarurat na ho.

Most of the introverts are perfectionist

Majedaar baat to ye hain ki, aise kaam jiname jada concentration ki jarurat nahi hoti, introverts uss kaam me dhyan na hone ke karan usse dhire karate hain to aise kaam jiname jada concentration ki jarurat hoti hain, bohot jada dhyan dene ke karan dhire karate hain.

Jadatar introverts perfectionist hote hain, ham har kaam me Perfection dhundate hain aur usame kisi bhi tarah ki koi bhi kami rah jaye ye ham bilkul bhi pasand nahi karate, lekin har baar hame koi na koi kami najar aa he jaati hain aur use he thik karate-karate samay ka dhyan he nahi rahata. Isiliye kisi bhi kaam ko karane me hame bohot jada samay lag jaata hain, aur fir bhi aisa bohot kam hota hain ki ham kisi bhi kaamse poori tarah santusht ho jaye aur usame koi kami na dhund paaye.

Leonardo da Vinci bhi ek introvert aur perfectionist the aur unaki perfection ki misaal “Mona Lisa” ke bare me to har koi jaanata hain lekin bohot log shayd ye nahi jaanate ki uss painting ko banane me Da Vinci ne kai saal laga diye the aur sirf Mona Lisa he nahi balaki Da Vinci har painting ko banane me bohot jada samay laga dete the aur isaka karan unaka perfectionist hona he tha.

Conclusion:

Iss article se ham yahi nishkarsh nikal sakate hain ki, kisi vyakti ka slow hone matalab ye nahi hain ki vo vyakti kam intelligent hain ya usee koi problem hain ya usaka brain slow hain jaisa ki bohot log samazte hain, usake slow hone ka matlab ye bhi ho sakata hain ki vo ek introvert hain.

Kya introverts ko lockdown se fark nahi padata?

Maine social media par kai logon ko aisa kahate huye dekha hain ki “quarantine days ya lockdown se introverts ko koi fark he nahi padata” lekin kya sachme aisa hain? Kuch introverts ke liye shayd ha lekin sabhi ke liye, bilkul nahi.

Aaiye ise vistar se samazate hai.

Psychology of Introverts in lockdown

Myers-Briggs method ke mutabik introverts ki 8 personalities hoti hai,

INFJ (Introversion+ Intuition+ Feeling+ judging)

INFP (Introversion+ Intuition+ Feeling+ Perceiving)

INTJ (Introversion+ Intuition+ Thinking+ Judging)

INTP (Introversion+ Intuition+ Thinking+ Perceiving)

ISFJ (Introversion+ Sensing+ Feeling+ judging)

ISFP (Introversion+ Sensing+ Feeling+ Perceiving)

ISTJ (Introversion+ Sensing+ Thinking+ Judging)

ISTP (Introversion+ Sensing+ Thinking+ Perceiving)

In sabhi alag-alag personalities ke log alag-alag chijo ko alag-alag tarike se anubhav karate hain.

Aur ajj ham baat kar rahe hain lockdown me introverts ki manasikata (psychology) ke baare me, to isame aur bhi kai Factors aa jate hain jaise ki, jis introvert vyakti ke baare me ham baat kar rahe hain vo lockdown se pahale kaha aur kis paristhiti me tha, vo ab kaha aur kis paristhiti me hain, lockdown ke baad use kaha jaana padega,ityadee.

To 8 prakar ki Personalities ke introverts aur unaki alag-alag paristhitiya mila ke asankhya sambhavanao ka bina koi vishleshan kare usaka ek line me yah nishkarsha maan lena ki “Lockdown se introverts ko fark nahi padata” mere mat se sahi nahi hoga.

Jaise kuch introverts apane kaam ke prati bohot jada samarpit hote hain aur lockdown me kaam ruk jaane ki vajah se ve bohot jada tanaav bhi aa sakate hain aur dusari taraf kuch introverts iss baat se khush bhi ho skate hain ki unhe kuch naya karane ke liye vakt mil gaya.

No one is 100% introvert or extrovert

Jo introverts lockdown me apane parivaar ke saath ya fir 2-3 kuch bohot karibi logon ke saath hain aur vo jab chahe tab akele me bhi samay bita sakate hain, jinamese se main bhi ek hu, to hamare liye chije saamanya ho sakati hain lekin jo introverts kahi ekdam akele fase huye hain ya fir aise logon ke saath hain jo unake bohot karibee na ho, un introverts ko thodi pareshani to jarur hogi.

Jaisa ki ham jaanate hain ki koi bhi vyakti 100% introvert ya 100% extrovert nahi hota, jaise har extrovert kabhi na kabhi akele me bhi samay bitata hain vaise he har introvert ko dusare logon ke saath interaction ki bhi jarurat hoti hain, fir vo log har introvert vyakti ke liye alag-alag ho sakate hain, kisi ke liye usake kuch khaas friends ho sakate to kisi ke liye kuch khaas rishtedaar ye poori tarah uss introvert vyakti par he nirbhar hain.

Conclusion:

To iss chote se article ka saar yahi hain ki, Kuch introverts ke liye ye lockdown ya quarantine ke din shyad koi Lottery jeetane ki tarah hain to kuch ke liye shayd ek aur Negative Overthinking ka kaaran aur kuch introverts ko koi jada fark he nahi pada ho.

Chahe paristhiti kaisi bhi ho har introvert use apani alag-alag personalities ki vajah se alag-alag tarike se anubhav karate hain.

Hame comment karake jarur bataye ki aap in lockdown ke dino ko kis tarah anubhav kar rahe hain.

Aasha hain ki aapko yah article jarur pasand aya hoga, hamase aise he jude rahe aur comment box me apana feedback jarur dee

Introverts gap-shap karana kyu pasand nahi karate?

Aksar log introverts ke jada baat na karane ki aadat ko galat samz kar ye maan lete hain ki introverts dusare logon ko pasand nahi karate lekin ye bilkul bhi sach nahi hain aur aisa bhi nahi hain ki introverts ko baate karana pasand nahi hota.

Asal me introverts gap-shap karana pasand nahi karate kyu ki vo Meaningless hoti, jabki Introverts gahari baate karana pasand karate hain, aisi baate jisase unhe kuch sikhane ko mile ya aisi baate jo unhe gahari soch me dalde.

Reasons Why Introverts Hate Small Talk

Introverts are Deep Thinkers

Jadatar introverts hamesha apane sochme doobe rahate hain aur kisi bhi chij ke bare me gaharaise sochana pasand karate hain, iss vajah se ve gap-shap karake Timepass karane se jada kisi interesting topic par sochane ko pradhaanata dete hain.

Agar aap ek extrovert hain to ho sakata hain ki shayad aap iss baat ko samaz nahi paa rahe ho, to ise ek example se samzne ki koshish kare,

Maan lijiye ki aap ko ek bohot he jada hard puzzle solve karana hain aur use solve karane ke liye aapke paas sirf 6 ghante hain to kya aap un 6 ghanto me puzzle ke bare me sochane ki bajaye betuki baate ya gap-shap karate rahenge? Nahi na…

Aur introverts ke paas to aisi kai saari chije hoti hai sochane ke liye.

Overthinking

Introverts ko interesting chijoke bare me sochte rahana pasand hota hain lekin yahi jada sochane ki aadat introverts ke liye tab pareshani ka karan ban jaati hain jab unaki soch ka Vishay koi nakaratmak vichar ho aur durbhagya se uss vichar ko dimaag se nikalana kuch introverts ke liye asaan nahi hota. Halaki overthinking ko rokane ke kuch tarike hain lekin fir bhi ise puri tarah se rokana bohot jada mushkil kaam hain.

Aur yahi negative overthinking introverts ke jada gap-shap na karane ke karanome se ek hain, vo kaise? Ye ham Suresh ke example se samazte hain,

Ek Suresh naam ka ladaka janm se he introvert tha. Ek din vo apane ghar ke samane vaali deevaar par painting kar raha tha, tabhi vaha se usake pados me rahane vale ek bujurag kahi ja rahe the. Unhone jaate-jaate Suresh ko painting karatahua dekhke pucha “are beta painting kar rahe ho?” aur suresh ne kaha “haa” lekin uss din Suresh ka awaaj thoda baitha hua tha to usane socha “unhe mera awaj sunai diya hoga ya nahi?” tab tak vo bujurg to ja chuke the lekin ab Suresh ki jada sochane ki aadat ki vajah se usake man me kuch aise savaal aane lage,

“unhe mera awaj sunai diya hoga ya nahi?”

“agar nahi sunai diya hoga to vo kya soch rahe honge?”

“agar unhe laga hoga mai kuch bola he nahi to kahi vo muze ghamadi to nahi kahenge?”

“unhone meri ek baar madat bhi ki thi, vo muze aisan faramosh to nahi samz rahe honge?”

Vagera-vagera… aur na jaane Suresh aise he kitani der tak uss ek chij ke bareme he sochata raha.

Agar iss tarah ka 2 lines ka sambhashan introverts ke man me itane negative vichar la sakata hain to introverts ka jada gap-shap karane ko pasand na karana to jaahir si baat hain.

Asal me introverts ka jada gap-shap karane ko pasand na karana unake avachetan man dvara negative vicharo se bachane ke liye banaye gaye Defence ki tarah hain.

(Jaise Dar bhi hamare avachetan man dvara kisi bhi khatare se bachane ke liye banaya gaya Defence hain)

Small Talk Creates Barrier between People

Mashahoor Psychologist aur Laurie Helgoe apani kitaab “Introvert Power” me likhati hain,

“Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people, we hate small talk because we hate barrier it creates between people”

Aap iss baat se jarur sahamat honge ki jab log (jo ek dusare ke jada karibi na ho) aapas me gap-shap karate hain tab vaha moujood koi vyakti dusare ki kahi gayi kisi baat se sahamat nahi bhi hoga tab bhi 10 me 8 bar vo aisa dikhata hain ki vo uss baat se sahamat hain ya fir kam se kam usaka khulake virodh nahi karata, usi tarah aise kai nakali dikhave kiye jate hain aur iss vajah se vo kabhi bhi apane vichar khul ke ek dusare ke samane nahi rakh paate, isase aapas me galataphahamee bhi badhane lagati hain, isake kaaran vo kabhi bhi ek dusare ke saath bhaavanaatmak roop se nahi jud paate aur introverts yahi sab chijo se nafarat karate hain.

Jadatar Introverts behad sanvedanasheel (sensitive) hote hain, unhe logon ke bich manamutaav hona bilakul pasand nahi hota.

Introverts don’t want to hurt people

Kyu ki Introverts behad jada sanvedanasheel (sensitive) hote vo baaki logon ki bhavanao ka bohot aadar karate hain. Aur jab had se jada sanvedanasheelata aur overthinking ke karan introverts dusare logon ki bhavanao ke baareme bohot jada sochate hain aur vo nahi chahate ki unaki kisi baat ki vajah se galati se bhi kisi ko bura lage ya dukh ho fir chahe kisi ko bura na bhi laga ho fir bhi introverts ye sochkar pareshan hote rahate hain ki "kahi meri kisi baat se kisi ko bura na lag jaye" aur ye bhi introverts ke jada baat na karane ka ek karan hain.

Few words from I’m Introvert

Iss article me diye gaye sabhi kaaran, introverts ke gap-shap ko pasand na karane ke kuch mukhya karan hain aur in karano ke alava bhi kuch hare k introvert ke kuch anya vyaktigat kaaran ho sakate hain.

Agar aap ko hamara yah article pasand aya to ise Share jarur kare aur comment box apana feedback jarur de taki ham aapko aur bhi behatar seva pradan kar sake.

Also read: How to stop overthinking?
Can an introvert become an extrovert?
Types of Introverts

Thank you!

Kya Introverts brain slow respond karata hain?

Reasons Why some introverts are Slow

Introverts ka brain unake thaughts me busy rahata hain

Most of the introverts are perfectionist

Conclusion:

Kya introverts ko lockdown se fark nahi padata?

Psychology of Introverts in lockdown

No one is 100% introvert or extrovert

Conclusion:

Introverts gap-shap karana kyu pasand nahi karate?

Reasons Why Introverts Hate Small Talk

Introverts are Deep Thinkers

Overthinking

Small Talk Creates Barrier between People

Introverts don’t want to hurt people

Few words from I’m Introvert

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